The Kenyan man’s greatest undoing, says Dr Osur, is the rush to get it over and done with. “Men tend to rush towards ejaculation fast,” Dr Osur says.
To improve, Dr Osur admonishes, men will need to master foreplay. A position supported by female hygiene expert Valentine Nyakiere who takes issue with men who approach sex like a starved bull.
“You need to be gentle and patient; treat the woman with care; don’t rush her. Stop focussing on finishing fast but rather enjoy the process,” she says.
Talk to your partner about her needs
If your wife – or female partner – has expressed dissatisfaction with your sex life, the best way to make corrections is to listen to her.
Ask her what she loves; what does she fancy; what could you do differently; how would she love intimacy to progress. By listening to her cues, Nyakiere says, a man easily satisfy his woman.
Don’t limit yourself to the bedroom
Sex dwells in variety, Dr Osur says. Something that produced excellent results yesterday may not achieve anything today.
According to Osur, a couple should experiment with different spaces, styles, positions, and activities.
Appeal to a woman’s emotions and mood
When does foreplay begin, you may ask. To which Dr Osur answers: “At the point where the previous intercourse ended.” Women love to be wooed.
This process of wooing gets them ready for fulfilling intimacy. Complementing her; calling her at work; treating her with respect and love; will go a long way, Nyakiere adds.
A man with insecurities is not likely to do a good job between the sheets, says Nyakiere. A man who confidently approaches sex should be able to deliver a good experience for their partner, she says.